This article is all about that highly controversial wedding phrase – feeling sexy on you wedding day. Who it is for, what's it about, and how you can make it work for you on your big day. First written for Bridal Musings, I have decided to share here for brides who didn't see it the first time around.
I often work with brides who say to me that they want to look graceful, elegant and demure on their big day. But when we are at the bridal appointment choose dresses that they think match this description. But when trying them on, they don’t have that happy look. Instead they pull at the top, and fidget with the skirt and when we come out of their appointment and have a chat, tell me they didn’t like any of the dresses because they felt frumpy, old fashioned, uncomfortable, not elegant or demure.
The word demure means different things to different people. The actual definition of demure is as follows –
Now I don’t know about you but that seems pretty antiquated to me. My vision of demure is more modern, elegant, beautiful and serene.
The word sexy can also mean lots of different things to different people. Say the word sexy in relation to a wedding and opinions start coming from every direction. Say sexy wedding dress and I bet you automatically think of a see-through number with a neckline down to your belly button.
But just like demure, sexy can mean beautiful and elegant. Wedding dresses can be sexy without being revealing.
It’s all about the feeling, rather than looking sexy, you want to feel sexy on your wedding day, and that doesn’t mean an eyeful of cleavage, or a revealing thigh split to everyone. Whether that feeling comes from being confident in what you wear underneath your dress or find that pair of OMG shoes, or trying that daring smokey eyes look, it doesn’t matter, you just have to find the sexy that’s right for you.
And just for the record it is actually ok to feel sexy on your wedding day, people seem to think sexy and weddings don’t go together. It’s your big day, you’re probably spending a lot of money on this one day, you should look however you want to look, and in my opinion you should definitely feel amazing, and feeling amazing usually includes a bit of sexy.
It isn’t just about the Dress
Your outfit isn’t limited to just the dress, sexy can be applied to shoes, lingerie, even accessories. Sexy shoes anyone? The dress isn’t the be all and end all of your wedding day look, there are so many elements which could bring a touch of sexy to your outfit without looking like you are going out for a night on the town.
The right makeup can do wonders
If you dress is more conservative, why not consider going a little bolder with your makeup? Try that smokey eye you’ve always dreamed of, and red lipstick always adds a touch of intrigue. Makeup artist Laura Anne can tell you all about the looks we created for our beautiful model, and give tips on how to make them work for you.
Confidence is Key
Feeling sexy comes from feeling confident, and the best way to do that is to stay true to yourself. Find a dress that fits your personality, don’t change who you are for other people – it’s your wedding, be you.
So how do you want to feel on your wedding day? I would love to her your thoughts!
Are you struggling to find the right dress to give you the confidence you need on your big day? I can help! Drop me an email or see more about my bridal styling services